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THIS IS MY BODY.

I am a movement artist, an aerial dancer, an instructor, a performer… and, I am a woman.

One thing I see in men and women of the world is a tendency to honor our intelligence, attractiveness, kindness and creativity. We embrace our very HUMAN-ness, give warm smiles to others and tell people to be themselves, because who you are is BEAUTIFUL.

I love this way of thinking. I am so grateful that our society recognizes our strengths and flaws and journey. Yet there is still one piece of our human puzzle that is so commonly omitted in the world of public appearances. While the rest of our spirit is bathing in the sunlight, our sensuality and our human figure at its very basic level is often cast in the shadows and shrouded so that not a line or curve can be seen, at risk of offending or drawing in an unwanted gaze. It is our raw bodies and sexuality that we pretend does not exist, that it is not a part of our daily lives in so many ways.

Today, I challenge that body “modesty”. I challenge our society’s sexuality-shaming tendencies. I am human, I am woman, and I am a sexual being with curves, lines, boobs and an ass. Heck, I even have a vagina! *gasp* And while I won’t spill all of my sexual habits and interests casually to any passing stranger, I am not ashamed to have them. To deny that side of me is to deny who I am. I for one, refuse to do that.

Photo by RTP Photography. Model: Emma Reyn.

As a pole and movement instructor, there is a special opportunity I have to see so many wonderful humans come through our studio doors from where they are in life, in need of *something* which has brought them to me, and then to watch as they slowly transform and unfold into new, amazing, and magical creatures.

We all come to these classes for so many different reasons. But one thing I see so clearly when I walk into Aradia Fitness is women (and men) choosing to truly embrace their bodies, to share this little piece of their souls to our community, and to be truly open with each other (and let me tell you, there is no shame when it comes to our body talk!). Maybe this is the only place we feel comfortable with so much openness, or maybe the students that come in are already wild and free and can’t help but bring with them a shine that infects us all. Whatever the case, it fills my heart to see my pole family every night finding new ways to respect their bodies and express their souls, and for many to express that sensual side of themselves which is too often thrown under the rug of shame and guilt.

Never be ashamed of who you are. Life is an adventure.

When I started my personal journey at Aradia Fitness so many years ago, I was a speck of dust in a room full of diamonds. Shy, quiet, and extremely self-conscious. To wear even a bathing suit out in the world made me squirm endlessly, and to even think about sexuality of any sort turned my cheeks bright red like a tomato.

But I found my home that very first night at Aradia Fitness, and for me, it was the first step on my path to feeling like a woman, a lioness, and a magical unicorn.

Pole fitness is not only an awesome workout, but it’s also a great way to make friends that can encourage and inspire you daily.

It was the beginning of my journey to truly appreciating myself, finding my confidence, and shining my brilliance for the world to see. It didn’t matter where I came from or what I looked like, and every piece of encouragement from my newfound pole family challenged those voices in my head telling me that I was not worthwhile. Soon those voices became quiet whispers I could ignore while I conquered the world (and the pole) for a while.

Every hip circle, hair whip, and heel clack became my battle cry for sensuality. Every invert became my defiance to the doubts of my strength. Every turn on the pole was a new expression of myself discovered and actualized. And feeling that sense of self is what led me to teaching, in hopes that I might inspire that same sense of self for others.

My fellow humans, this is my challenge to you. Find that voice in your brain that is screaming negativity, fear, doubt, and shame. Turn your music up, and then turn those voices WAY down. Be yourself. Your whole self. Body and soul. Wherever you are today. At least for a few minutes, or maybe an hour while you’re in your safe space with your pole fam.

You have my permission. Not that you need it. <3

Emma Reyn is an instructor, performer, and figure art model. Come meet your sexy side in her Sultry Pole classes, work on those lines and curves in our FlexAbility class, or get moving with her in Pole and Lyra classes!

Article Written by Emma Reyn, Instructor at Aradia Fitness Cary in Cary, North Carolina

May 30, 2017

Majikmyke and his take on Sensuality

As title would indicate this post (and more to follow) are dedicated to Michael Egan aka Majikmyke. I met Mike many years ago, I am sure he would not remember but I remember it like yesterday. He was the first male I had seen in a pole studio EVER and I had been poling for a while by then. I was uncomfortable to say the least, you have to understand that given my cultural background just stepping into a pole studio was momentous for me. I had let go of holding myself back or defining myself and this was just another block I needed to overcome. Being in a class with Mike was an education in itself. He had a wonderful persona willing to learn attitude and a gentleman to the core. My fears of poling with a male student were so dumbfounded and I walked away relearning that every obstacle we see in our way is mostly our own imagination. We make it as big as we want to or as insignificant as we want to. Since then we have been friends and now we are a part of bigger family or should I say poling tribe. He is competing on the 20th of August for Titans Of Pole Champions, this is my way of letting everyone know how very special Mike is.

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Mike has been poling for a while now, he started this journey because he wanted to do something special for his wife and I started my pole journey because I wanted to dance but could not imagine a partner other than my husband , and so here we are today, my respect for Mike via this post. I love his take on “sensuality.”
“People really do meet their sensual side when they pole dance. The sensual side very often is a positive mental attitude reflecting self perception. I see in my lady pole mates, how they have gained self confidence, composure, muscular development, and increased stamina through pole dancing. Once a person learns to invert pole dancing becomes sort of addictive. For me pole reinvented my body and mind. Due to pole dancing I am becoming more flexible, I have a better balance and posture, an overall toned body, and a whole lot of confidence.” You could not have said it better Mike.

 

Go Get it Mike!!!