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Reconnect with yourself

Reconnect with yourself

As I am aging I am finding my heritage and my love  for Yoga again. I have been immersing myself in yoga/ trainings/ and certifications from Kripalu. My recent immersion has been in Yoga Nidra with Jennifer Reis. The practice of Yoga Nidra opened my inner self for a deeper connection with myself.

Feel like a hamster caught in a wheel

I have often felt like a hamster caught in a wheel, running in the same place trying to get to places, yet each day turns into another and another and another. Though technology is all around us, we can connect with people loved ones right away yet there is overwhelming sense of loneliness and disconnection. There is so much social media noise that it has become impossible to hear oneself. In this blog I will not venture into comparison and ego but that is definitely coming. Working on a new space Shakti has brought its own challenges and small wins too. I have felt a deeper need to reconnect and be present. I wanted to share a few of my go to practices, in the hope that you might find them useful too.

It is not about controlling, it’s about being present, being open, being aware and allowing it to come.

Being one with your body

Most of us have experienced different forms of trauma, for some of us disconnecting with our body is a way to deal with it, for some of us our body image brings us pain of different kind. No matter how hard it seems but the truth is reconnecting with our body is the first step to grounding ourselves and being present in the present moment. Our body houses our soul/spirit, before we can reach deep within we need to connect with our body. I have found Yoga Nidra to be one of those practices, it brings a great amount of awareness to all 5 Koshas, and wherever awareness goes consciousness follows. On a wider level I believe both practices of Yoga and dancing bring great awareness to body, simple attention to breath brings attention to our body and to the present moment. It allows you to get out of your head and experience the magic of breath that we all take for granted.

In today’s world there is constant comparison of ourselves to others, our worth is defined by career achievements and financial standings. Just like the hamster in a wheel, this is an endless cycle. Breaking this cycle requires jumping off the wheel, from time to time to reconnect with our beautiful body, reconnect with our true being. Yoga Nidra is one of those practices that helps ground you and reconnect with Annamaya Kosha.

All problems are the illusions of the mind ~ Eckhart Tolle

Getting to know breath and the mind 

Once we connect with our body the next is to focus on your breath, your “prana”. Your energy, something that happens automatically yet is vital for our existence. We rarely give it attention. Attention to our breath brings us back to us, especially when our mind that is like a child, that is constantly worried, has doubts, self criticism, and obsesses. Guided meditation such as Yoga Nidra, guides us to its tantrums. Brings our awareness to it. With the breath grounding us in our body and our intellect noticing the inner child, we are bringing ourselves to the present moment.

What happened in the past stays there and future is not here, what we have is the NOW. Take in the present with your entire being. This practice can be very jarring because it will bring you face to face with your inner turmoil, however it will also make you realize it is your own creation. It will help you cultivate love for yourself, more compassion for yourself and others. It will bring you closer to you.

When there is a surge of restlessness| anxiety or when we feel overwhelmed, returning our focus to our breath can bring calmness. For some of us sitting meditation is hard, in that case dancing, walking are perfect to center ourselves.

You can not control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.

Acceptance and writing

Am I about to say journaling?? Yes I am, we tend to run away from our feelings,  we need to allow for us to process it fully be aware of it and accept it. This is where writing and journaling comes in. Journaling allows us to explore our thoughts and feelings further, allows us to go deeper and to the root causes which brings on greater awareness and hence acceptance without judgement or criticism Journaling has the potential of uncovering all the layers. It is like a deep conversation with ourselves, that forces us in a way to explore further and hopefully brings us closer to the answer of “who am I”.

These 3 practices can help us with deeper connection to ourselves, thereby leading us to live fuller lives, greater self love, and a sense of belonging.

Hope you join us for a yoga and mindfulness at our Yoga Nidra classes at  Shakti Yoga Nidra, 

Love And Light Always
Neelam Kataria

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Mindfulness – Taking control of your happiness

Taking control of your happiness starts with checking in with yourself. Your true self… Are you spending your time looking at yourself, dressing yourself through other people’s eyes? Are you judging yourself harshly, does that judgmental thought then refuse to leave you making you uncomfortable in your own body?

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu

It is very easy to slip into the mode of living our lives according to the perceived  perception of other people’s standards. This gives rise to an inner conflict, making us feel inauthentic, anxious, and judgmental. This feeling then becomes a never-ending almost an infinity loop that keeps feeding itself.

And to that I say F… IT

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As Bob Marley said “Love the life you live, live the life you love”

Truth be told what other people think of us is none of our business. Other peoples opinions have nothing to do with us. It is cumulative affect of their past, their experiences, their likes and dislikes. For example when you walk into a room, every person in that room will think of you differently depending on the kind of day they are having. Each of those people are looking the exact same you in the same moment but will see you very differently.  The main question then is “how to stop giving a F.. as to what people think of me”

Here are a few suggestions

Mind your own business, these words have been used harshly and have harsh tone but lets delve into it, there are other businesses such as when you are trying so hard to get somewhere in time and it pours and the the NOVA drivers are extra cautious, everything crawls, what you feel in this situation matters! This business is uncontrollable, being anxious, or negative thoughts and judgements about the car in-front of you will not help matters but they certainly have a profound affect on how you feel. Then there is the business of what other people think of you, in the same situation think if you were the driver infront would it really matter what the person behind you is thinking about you? Stay away from living your life in other person’s head. Now we come to “Mind your own business” You getting angry because it is pouring that is your business, can you really do something about it? Being angry because the car infront of you is crawling, can you do something about it? Getting my drift? You control how you feel, that is all. Check in with yourself know your business and take control of it. What you think and feel is your business and matters.


“Train your mind to see good in everything” ~ Buddha

Own your feelings (for a moment I wanted to say own your sexy you will see it relates too) When we lead our lives based on other people’s opinions we are basically handing over the control of our lives to them. Like a puppet you place your life strings in other people’s hands and depending on the perceived string pulled we feel good or bad or sad. Our own perceptions of “she ignored me on purpose” feed into our negativity sinkhole and for all you know the other person might be thinking the same thoughts about another person :(. The truth is, the only person capable of hurting your feelings is yourself. Changing how you feel about a person’s actions requires a change in your thought process. You need to own your feelings and thoughts, know what thoughts are causing which emotion. This is very powerful, once you understand that acceptance and understanding will follow and so will your emotions.

“Do the best you can until you know better, then when you know better do better”  Maya Angelou

Do your best..how many of you remember your mom asking you “did you do your best” how many of us as moms ask our children “did you do your best” ?? We need to ask the same question of ourselves too, when we are doing our best there is positive intent from start to finish. You are not shortchanging yourself. Please know that when you are doing your best, how the other person receives it is not in your hands or control, all you control is, how you feel when you do your best, the feeling that comes from doing your best is yours and only yours to bathe and bask in.


“Grace means that all of your mistakes now serve a purpose Instead of serving shame” ~ Brene Brown

Making mistake is necessary to growth, even when you are minding your own business, doing your best, owning your feelings,  you will make mistakes. Having compassion for your self and a love for yourself very important. Hopefully you have been workin g on self love. Only productive thing that should arise from making a mistake is learning. Any other feeling or emotion is pretty much non functional for you. Everyone makes mistakes, it is always how you respond to it that makes all the difference. When you see a person being a bully, how do you feel, why would you be a bully to yourself.

SOO stop worrying about what other people think, stay out of their business, mind your own business and own your own sexy!! You are a goddess.

Love and Light Always Neelam Kataria

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