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Be kind to yourself

Be Kind to yourself

Resolution Series 1

We have reached the beginning of a new year – a time of reflection and rebirth. This is the time that we set our intentions for the rest of the year through the making of resolutions. Unfortunately, these resolutions can sometimes be unkind toward ourselves, focusing on perceived flaws. Or they can be unrealistic – setting ourselves up for disappointment, which is also unkind. I’d like to take the month of January to discuss realistic resolutions, that come from a place of respect and compassion for ourselves and for our bodies.

Be kind to your self

Self love is important to me, and I know that it is important to Neelam, which is one of the reasons I was drawn to Aradia as an instructor. I’m very happy that this blog series can find a home here, where people are passionate about breaking cycles and healing.


The first resolution I’d like to discuss is BE KIND TO YOURSELF.


“You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. 

Be Kind to Yourself” – Anonymous


As a psychology student studying Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I discovered the concept of Self Talk. This is the inner dialogue we have with ourselves, and it is super important! What we say to ourselves in our head manifests our reality – our attitude towards ourselves and others. Many times, our Self Talk can be negative. We say things to ourselves that we would never say out loud to someone we care about. Why do we do that? Shouldn’t we treat ourselves like someone we care about?


Improving Self Talk is not only linked to better mental health, reduced stress and anxiety, but also improved immune function, cardiovascular health, pain reduction, and life span. So how do we get started?


The first step is awareness. Pay attention to your Self Talk. What do you say to yourself? When are you negative? When are you positive? Do you notice any recurring thoughts or patterns? What would you like to change about the way you talk to yourself?


Here are some common negative patterns to watch out for:

  • Personalizing – blaming yourself for everything.
  • Magnifying – focusing on only the negative, ignoring the positive, and blowing things out of proportion.
  • Catastrophizing – expecting the worst, regardless of likelihood.
  • Polarizing – seeing the world in black and white, no middle ground.


The next step is correction. When you notice that you have said something negative to yourself, correct it. Even if you don’t really believe the positive side, yet. Thinking it will help make it real. For example, correct “I’m going to mess up this presentation” with “I’m going to do the best that I can”.


After that comes intentional positivity. Even before you correct a negative thought, start thinking positive things about yourself. “I worked hard today”, “I’m a compassionate person”, “I like the way my hair looks today”. The more you practice, the easier it will become, until it’s second nature. Positive affirmations have a bit of a silly reputation, but they work. FInd some that resonate with you.


Neelam has written a wonderful blog on this subject herself. She also discusses searching for a deeper reason when you think an unkind thought towards someone else. So be sure to check that out here.

Be Kind To Yourself| New Year Resolution| Aradia Fitness Loudoun| Best Pole Dance studio in NOVA

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Lady Curvicorn


Aradia Instructor Lady Curvicorn has spent years researching self compassion and intuitive eating, and has used that experience to create a list of compassionate New Year’s Resolutions. We will be sharing her blog series with you throughout the month.


Curvy Confidence| Pole dance program for Curvy Women

Curvy Confidence- Pole dance program for Curvy Women

Curvy Confidence, a pole dance program for Curvy women. Our Ashburn studio is now offering classes for Curvy women!! We are offering these classes as series, so there is a progression build up as you profess through the weeks.A celebration of you and your curves, defined by strength, flexibility and sensuality with Aradia™ pole fitness.Meet Your Sexy side!!

Join plus size dancer Lady Curvicorn in Curvy Confidence series.  This 6-week series, where we will explore the advantages of curvy bodies, develop strength through conditioning, and discover how your unique body wants to move. All levels welcome.*we love all bodies in all shapes. Curves and Chrome is exclusive to curvier (plus sized) girls. 
The current session is Sold out!


Learn More about curves and confidence Curvy Confidence series.


October News

Curvy Confidence series at Aradia Fitness Loudoun

Workshops with Rihannan

October 20th
We are happy to host guest Pro Instructor Rihannan Nichole!  Please note that both workshops require intermediate pole skills to attend.
12:00 Base Work & Floor Tricks: Favorites like the Venus Fly Trap, Kip Whip, Fish Flop, Lasso, and smooth shoulder transitions
1:45 Make it Rain: As the name suggests, one of her signature workshops with her signature moves do not miss this workshop.
Book your spot here Curvy Confidence
Thursdays at 8:15 pm – Starts October 10th
A celebration of you and your curves, defined by strength, flexibility and sensuality.
Join plus size dancer Lady Curvicorn in this 6-week series, where we will explore the advantages of curvy bodies, develop strength through conditioning, and discover how your unique body wants to move. All levels welcome. Curves and Chrome is exclusive to curvier (plus sized) girls.Book Your Spot Here

Slay The Night Costume Contest
October 28th October 6:45 pm

Sterling location
On this night we shall show one another how we wtp (work the pole) in our amazing costumes. Each candidate will be recorded and put on our group page so GO ALL OUT!!!  The winner will be receiving a pole party with 4  friends! No prior pole experience needed just dress up and come have some fun!
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Hustlers Club Nights
Thursdays at 6:45 pm – Starts October 17th
Want to move like J.Lo and the rest of the cast of HUSTLERS? Gain confidence and workout without thinking about it while learning how to entice an audience with slithering floorwork and sexy low flow moves!
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Booty TwerkOut
October 28th at 8:15 pm
Learn how to do your standard twerk moves. We will be shaking it up down left and right so be sure to bring loads of water, knee pads and wear loose shorts so we can appreciate that shake!!! Get ready to shake your bootys witches!
Book Your spot hereAerial SlingSundays at 4:10 pm
Sling is a unique apparatus that allows you to create mesmerizing shapes and fully express yourself creatively. In this session, we will focus on creating fluidity in our movements through a variety of sequences, dynamic tricks and spinning techniques. Students must be able to flip into a sling at chest height or above.
Book Your Spot HereRussian Exotic
Sundays at 12:30 pm
Russian Exotic combines floor work, low flow, and  acrobatic Pole Elements. Each session will include one or two choreographed routines that will merge pole dance acrobatics and ballet style flow and extensions.. You will learn techniques for using your heels and conditioning exercises designed to make you stronger.
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Aerial Hoop
Sundays at 11:15 am
This series focuses on conditioning, strength-building and fundamental techniques in all apparatuses.  This a 8 week session which will ready students for moving up.
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Mondays at 7:00pm
In this class you will learn a unique, stylized routine designed to increase your pole dance vocabulary while also focusing on musical and emotional connectivity.
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New to pole?  Have a friend that wants to try?  Here are our pole intro dates for October:
October 25th at 7pm in Ashburn
October 26th at 12:00 in SterlingTry our $99 special for NEW clients:  2 weeks of unlimited classes!
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