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Love Yourself

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Loving yourself is harder than it seems

 

 

Love Yourself

What does self love mean? Does it sound indulgent and almost selfish to you? Back in the day “you complete me” from a Tom Cruise movie trended for a long time. It made women teary eyed and all gooey inside. To which I say…

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha 

Loving yourself is indeed harder than it sounds. It requires a good understanding of self, which requires one to spend time with themselves. It requires taking time to have hard conversations with yourself. In this day and age of social media where lives are lived outside of self it becomes even more important to connect with one self and within oneself. Are there desires of wanting and needing love/self validations, or seeking your worth in someone else’s eyes. Be mindful of your needs that arise from deep within, acknowledge those deep desired needs and then understand WHY? Why do we crave those affectionate and reassuring words from someone else? As I write these words they translate harsh, they are equally difficult when we face them but ultimately we find the courage to be true to ourselves.

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” ~Russ Von Hoelscher

This year lets work on ourselves, what we want from ourselves, get to know our own strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with our strengths and work on our weaknesses, but at each moment it has to be your own design and not a design created through someone else’s vision of you. This year let’s fall in love with ourselves.
To love ourselves is to never say “you complete me” it is to say I am, and the potential of that is limitless.

All that I seek is already in me. “ ~Louise Hay

Love Always

Neelam

Express Gratitude Be Thankful

Feeling Gratitude and expressing it, month to be thankful

Be thankful

“Feeling Gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it”
 William Arthur Ward
We started a #thankfulchallenge2018 at the studio. With this challenge we are encouraging our students to write notes of things they are thankful for, seems like a childish activity. However, I truly believe that as busy women we tend to go through much of our life on autopilot with our very set routines. We rarely have time to ourselves let alone think of things that are seemingly not so critical.
If you have taken any of my classes pole or aerial yoga, you might have heard me mention that I find  my classes very meditative. Most of us are truly present mind body and soul in our classes and have left all our worries outside the studios red door, why not take a moment to truly think of things we are thankful for. The key to happiness I believe lies in gratitude, and gratitude begins with being thankful.
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness—it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” ~Brené Brown
We are so inclined to be chasers of the future that we completely neglect the present, and I believe being thankful, in a way forces us to pause in the moment, therefore making us live the present and actually feel that happy moment. Being thankful begins a chain, because in that moment we have shifted our focus to what we have and cherish. This moment of appreciation takes the focus away from “the lack of something”. Being thankful will make us happy and  boost our confidence because being in the present makes us more accepting of life right now.
In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~Brother David Steindl-Rast
I have always believed happiness is lived in moments. Take the time to be thankful write it down live that moment and stick it on the wall of the studio anonymously!! Spread infectious gratitude this month.
Be Thankful

Art of Letting go

ART OF LETTING GO
Everything that has a beginning has an end. The green of summer is quickly turning to brilliant hues of yellow, orange and brown.Letting go enables us to grow and shedding  makes growth possible.  Learning how and when to let go is essential. The continuum of this cycle is  apparent in fall. Whether it is a tree’s choice to shed it’s leaves or not,  it is this release in fall that allows the continuation of trees life as the strength of the sun fades away.

This seemingly simple act of letting go is monumental in shaping us. Revisit your first visit to the studio, what did you let go of when you decided to take your first pole class, and since then what else have you let go, think about your growth in that time. We  continually need to drop or shed aspects of our being, our beliefs that we hold about about ourselves, continually evaluate expectations we maintain form other people, relationships, job, and from ourselves.

Pole dance class ashburn

Letting go Pole dancing helps shedding insecurity

Pole dance helps regain confidence

Letting go of long held beliefs makes room for new beginnings

Shedding of previously held beliefs, expectations, perceptions ensures growth. Letting go is not easy,  it is a step into the dark unknown space, just like the leaf letting go of the branches floating beautifully down to the ground. When we decide to let go it is natural to experience a surge of fear because what is known and comfortable is being left behind In that that moment  I want you to remember
“There is no growth without change, no change without fear or loss and no loss without pain” Rick Warren

The sense of fear and despair needs to be fought with faith and belief in yourself. Be aware of the magic unfolding  in front of you, from the trees letting go of their leaves with grace, leaves letting go of branches and nourishing the ground, to the monarch butterflies flying to Mexico leaving behind their chrysalis hanging on fences. What awaits us on the horizon like the rising sun is palpable, capable of being sensed before the first rays are seen.
In letting go lies magic, be magical.

I will leave you with the following words

“When light rises, fear springs up to dim the light. We are presented with the choice to give in to the fear or to rise above it. We always have a choice.” -Danielle Lindner

CHOOSE TO BE MAGICAL

Love Always
Neelam Kataria

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