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Art of Letting go

ART OF LETTING GO
Everything that has a beginning has an end. The green of summer is quickly turning to brilliant hues of yellow, orange and brown.Letting go enables us to grow and shedding  makes growth possible.  Learning how and when to let go is essential. The continuum of this cycle is  apparent in fall. Whether it is a tree’s choice to shed it’s leaves or not,  it is this release in fall that allows the continuation of trees life as the strength of the sun fades away.

This seemingly simple act of letting go is monumental in shaping us. Revisit your first visit to the studio, what did you let go of when you decided to take your first pole class, and since then what else have you let go, think about your growth in that time. We  continually need to drop or shed aspects of our being, our beliefs that we hold about about ourselves, continually evaluate expectations we maintain form other people, relationships, job, and from ourselves.

Pole dance class ashburn

Letting go Pole dancing helps shedding insecurity

Pole dance helps regain confidence

Letting go of long held beliefs makes room for new beginnings

Shedding of previously held beliefs, expectations, perceptions ensures growth. Letting go is not easy,  it is a step into the dark unknown space, just like the leaf letting go of the branches floating beautifully down to the ground. When we decide to let go it is natural to experience a surge of fear because what is known and comfortable is being left behind In that that moment  I want you to remember
“There is no growth without change, no change without fear or loss and no loss without pain” Rick Warren

The sense of fear and despair needs to be fought with faith and belief in yourself. Be aware of the magic unfolding  in front of you, from the trees letting go of their leaves with grace, leaves letting go of branches and nourishing the ground, to the monarch butterflies flying to Mexico leaving behind their chrysalis hanging on fences. What awaits us on the horizon like the rising sun is palpable, capable of being sensed before the first rays are seen.
In letting go lies magic, be magical.

I will leave you with the following words

“When light rises, fear springs up to dim the light. We are presented with the choice to give in to the fear or to rise above it. We always have a choice.” -Danielle Lindner

CHOOSE TO BE MAGICAL

Love Always
Neelam Kataria

Be happy

Stop comparing yourself to others

How to be Happy

How to be Happy 🙂

Happiness seems so unattainable,  something to be found at the end of a rainbow. It would seem that we are chasing it forever quantifying it by “if I have this car” or “when I have this house.”
Have you considered: What is happiness? Go back in your memories and visit the time when you were happy. Is it just a fleeting moment of a sunset, or a cool breeze through your hair.
One of the surest way however to hijack happiness is when we compare ourselves to others. It is one of the easiest ways to feel bad about ourselves regardless of the parameter of comparison. Needless to say social media has made it too easy for comparisons to set in.
Comparison is the thief of Joy as Teddy Roosevelt said, whenever you feel the tentacles of comparison creeping closer think of all that you have accomplished. Be kind to yourself.

You are you that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
Dr. Seuss 🙂

As women I believe we are too hard on ourselves and so unforgiving of ourselves, We are too busy either seeing our own faults or comparing ourselves to others. Every once in a while we tend to fall in the same comparison trap while working on our skills at the studio.
Be mindful! When comparison starts rising, at that moment I want you to visit the very first time you walked around the pole, revisit that moment and acknowledge how far you have arrived since. Do not compare your current pole journey to someone else’s. All Aradia Goddesses need to be mindful of not attaching their self worth to anything or anyone, the moment we do that it ceases to be ours. Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to others. Choose to be happy. Focus on creating and being yourself, you are your own masterpiece.
Remember
Comparison is an act of violence against the self~ Iyanla Vanzant

BE A GODDESS

Love Always
Neelam Kataria

 

Inspiring story at Tiny Buddha

How Joining a Pole Studio Changed My Life (and It Can Change Yours, Too)

How Joining a Pole Studio Changed My Life (and It Can Change Yours, Too)
“Just go in.”
As it turns out, the voice inside me that won that day also happened to be the quietest. Under the delicate midday light of late November, I was sitting in my car outside the humble door of Aradia Fitness, nestled in a business park with children’s martial arts studios and music tutoring spaces, debating with myself whether I wanted to go through with an Introduction to Pole Fitness class.
One part of me was quite vocal about how I would certainly be facing skinny college-age women who would probably ridicule my physique, and how I would most likely make a fool of myself. Another part of me dwelled on the thousands of dollars I had already spent on dental implants as a result of a childhood injury of falling flat on my face—what if I fell and hurt or mangled myself again? These loud, obnoxious voices debated back and forth internally until a smaller voice cut through.
“Maybe you’ll have fun. Maybe this is what you need. Just go in.”
So I went in, and I was surrounded by an array of equally terrified-looking women, some of whom were indeed collegiate, but others who appeared to be my age and above. There were all sorts of bodies, some slender, some Rubenesque. We made nervous small talk until we were greeted by the studio owner, Neelam.
Perhaps it was something in the color of her eyes or the sound of her voice, but Neelam radiated amber and honey, as if she were sunlight personified. She told us a brief story about her own dance and fitness journey, and as she stood illuminated by the afternoon glow cutting through the deep red curtains, the whole place felt exotic yet inviting, a little ruby oasis in the middle of suburbia. While even the mere sight of poles felt intimidating at first, Neelam helped us relax. She has this unyielding quality of calming everyone around her, and putting fears to rest. Her hugs are an indescribable medicine. That day, I stumbled my way through a few spin attempts but had fun practicing some body waves and catlike moves on the floor.
In the first month, I didn’t quite feel sexy or empowered. But, I did feel challenged, as though I was a child learning a new language, trying to memorize a few basic words through repetition. More than anything, what brought me back to Aradia after that first class was the sensation in my shoulders the next morning. I was sore in muscles I had never activated before. I had spent my entire life involved in some kind of physical activity—volleyball, golf, basketball, running, various Beachbody home fitness DVD programs—but I had never felt soreness in that particular spot. I was also sobered by how weak I was in other areas, and felt determined to pursue the kind of core strength that pole dancers and aerial gymnasts display. I knew that this kind of movement would be stimulating and different, and it was introduced to me at a time when I needed change.
October 2017 found me in a new job role with a better commute but a distinct lack of social support and diversity. Other than my boss, my office only had one other woman in it. My best friend in the area had just delivered a baby that month, and so my life both inside and outside of work felt deprived of camaraderie and sisterhood. By November, I became desperate for something to keep me motivated, and so a quick Google search of places where I could learn a form of dance that had always intrigued me revealed the Aradia studio in Ashburn, which had numerous glowing reviews.
The second class I signed up for was one called Liquid Motion, because the description emphasized more floorwork. Knowing that I needed to build up my strength and coordination to keep going with actual pole training, I thought Liquid sounded like a nice supplement that would develop some skills without leaving the ground. That was when I met the instructor, Karen, who is the living dichotomy of sensual and maternal. She exudes a hard core rocker chick vibe, always looking like she stepped out of an epic music video. Ultimately, she is a badass who cares for her students deeply; I have seen more than one woman come to class and break down in tears over some personal trauma, and Karen responds with comfort and strength, taking time to guide them away from pain, loss, or anger. Then, when Karen performs, she is alluring and coy, an icon of feminine movement. When you see her dance, you understand the dedication, discipline, and hard work behind the architecture of her muscles. She has an eye for details, and in simple tweaks to the position of your head or leg, changes something from impossible to possible. Liquid Motion clicked with me because it was the class where I first felt like I could say something beautiful with my body, which I previously often regarded with disgust or shame. Even when my simple toe point became a little straighter, I felt proud and eager to train harder.
Then there is Jenna, who combines physics and philosophy in her artistic approach to pole. She emphasizes the concept of opposition, which applies not only to the actual dynamics of spinning, but to creating aesthetically pleasing shapes with one’s body. She demonstrates endless patience with me, and watches my face with concern when I try to do a few spins in front of her. “I don’t think you’re quite feeling the joy of flying yet,” she says to me, and she’s got a point: I have been so focused on trying to execute these movements that I am growing increasingly frustrated by my inability to get things right. Her solution? “I want you to go back to the very basics, and just play with the sensation of swinging around the pole, even if you’re only doing a dip, so that you can really do this with abandon.” Jenna has a knack for finding her students’ strengths and building upon them, and has managed to snap me out of creeping dismay or defeat on several occasions.
There are so many other teachers at Aradia who are just as compassionate and talented, and I can’t wait to work with them all as I (slowly) progress up the skill ladder.
When I look back on the last several months, what I recognize in myself is profound emotional growth in addition to the physical changes. That aspect, to me, is something I have never gained while running on a treadmill in a crowded gym. I have developed, little by little, a stronger sense of self-worth and expressiveness. I feel like smiling much more. I take pictures of myself. I hear songs on the radio while I’m walking the dog and suddenly find myself doing some kind of toe drag or hair flip because I feel inspired. I still worry about things in my life, but now I have a few hours a week where, surrounded by ruby curtains and twinkling lights, I can take a breath. I can feel elevated by my classmates, like Jeanine, a nurturer whose laughter is contagious, and Kay, whose strength and confidence I wish to someday achieve.
A question posed by one of our visiting instructors, Nia, resonates with me still: “who is she?”
I’m still finding out. I’m still creating her.
But for those who are still hesitant about embarking on such a journey, for anyone trying to muster the courage to put on some skimpy shorts and sky-high heels, my advice is this:
Just go in.
By Our Student Liz.
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