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Becoming

“Becoming”

Former first lady Michelle Obama just published her book “Becoming” and I happen to watch one of the quick teasers about her conversation with my idol Oprah. Oprah asked the former first lady why she chose the word “Becoming”  as the title of her book. Her answer or should I say her words resonated with me so much that I had to write them down. We should strive to constantly evolve, constantly grow, constantly be better than what we were yesterday, and in that way we are constantly “becoming” a better versions of ourselves.

My last post was about being thankful and being in the present and enjoy the feeling of happiness and contentment that courses through your body. Today I invite you to experience a different outlook. Looking into our past and events gone by may not be a very welcome, however I feel reflecting on our past, our journey, obstacles we faced, and acknowledging where we are today provides an immense amount of  strength that brings on a very superhero kind of a feeling.

Celebrate your achievements, celebrate your journey

Celebrate your life

I was at PSO competition in Philadelphia supporting our students as well as my dear friends. Once the competition was over for my friends we were in a celebratory mode at night and wine is our go to celebration drink. We got to discussing our near past and then of course our past like way past past. My friend had no idea how far I had come in my journey and honestly that was the first time I had voiced my journey to her and to myself. I could see pride in her eyes for me and that made me feel so special. Even as I write this I feel  a bit embarrassed, as if I am bragging, but I do believe we all have the right to feel pride. Pride in our achievements, overcoming obstacles, fears, judgments, and challenges is important. Many of you have overcome obstacles, challenges and only known to you fears in our classes, for that I am proud of you and so should you. If it was not a very guards down candid conversation with my friend I would not have had this revelation, I absolutely had to share it with each of you.

“Remember how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” ~Rick Warren

 I urge you to take a walk by yourself, acknowledge your past and see your present. Be mindful of where you have been and how far you have come. When we truly spend time with ourselves and speak to our deeper selves, a self that knows the hurt, the challenges all too well and has seen defeat, that self also needs to see accomplishments, recognize and thrive in all the achievements. Do not deny the feeling of pride in yourself to yourself. Appreciate your journey, revel in your strength, in your bravery, know how wonderfully special you are. Celebrate your progress, let your superpowers shine, it is wonderful to be “present” but for an equal measure, honor yourself and your past and how far you have come. You are amazing!!

Moral of the story, you do not need wine to celebrate your accomplishments :).
Be A Goddess

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~ Oprah Winfery

Love and Light Always
Neelam Kataria

Express Gratitude Be Thankful

Feeling Gratitude and expressing it, month to be thankful

Be thankful

“Feeling Gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it”
 William Arthur Ward
We started a #thankfulchallenge2018 at the studio. With this challenge we are encouraging our students to write notes of things they are thankful for, seems like a childish activity. However, I truly believe that as busy women we tend to go through much of our life on autopilot with our very set routines. We rarely have time to ourselves let alone think of things that are seemingly not so critical.
If you have taken any of my classes pole or aerial yoga, you might have heard me mention that I find  my classes very meditative. Most of us are truly present mind body and soul in our classes and have left all our worries outside the studios red door, why not take a moment to truly think of things we are thankful for. The key to happiness I believe lies in gratitude, and gratitude begins with being thankful.
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness—it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” ~Brené Brown
We are so inclined to be chasers of the future that we completely neglect the present, and I believe being thankful, in a way forces us to pause in the moment, therefore making us live the present and actually feel that happy moment. Being thankful begins a chain, because in that moment we have shifted our focus to what we have and cherish. This moment of appreciation takes the focus away from “the lack of something”. Being thankful will make us happy and  boost our confidence because being in the present makes us more accepting of life right now.
In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~Brother David Steindl-Rast
I have always believed happiness is lived in moments. Take the time to be thankful write it down live that moment and stick it on the wall of the studio anonymously!! Spread infectious gratitude this month.
Be Thankful

Art of Letting go

ART OF LETTING GO
Everything that has a beginning has an end. The green of summer is quickly turning to brilliant hues of yellow, orange and brown.Letting go enables us to grow and shedding  makes growth possible.  Learning how and when to let go is essential. The continuum of this cycle is  apparent in fall. Whether it is a tree’s choice to shed it’s leaves or not,  it is this release in fall that allows the continuation of trees life as the strength of the sun fades away.

This seemingly simple act of letting go is monumental in shaping us. Revisit your first visit to the studio, what did you let go of when you decided to take your first pole class, and since then what else have you let go, think about your growth in that time. We  continually need to drop or shed aspects of our being, our beliefs that we hold about about ourselves, continually evaluate expectations we maintain form other people, relationships, job, and from ourselves.

Pole dance class ashburn

Letting go Pole dancing helps shedding insecurity

Pole dance helps regain confidence

Letting go of long held beliefs makes room for new beginnings

Shedding of previously held beliefs, expectations, perceptions ensures growth. Letting go is not easy,  it is a step into the dark unknown space, just like the leaf letting go of the branches floating beautifully down to the ground. When we decide to let go it is natural to experience a surge of fear because what is known and comfortable is being left behind In that that moment  I want you to remember
“There is no growth without change, no change without fear or loss and no loss without pain” Rick Warren

The sense of fear and despair needs to be fought with faith and belief in yourself. Be aware of the magic unfolding  in front of you, from the trees letting go of their leaves with grace, leaves letting go of branches and nourishing the ground, to the monarch butterflies flying to Mexico leaving behind their chrysalis hanging on fences. What awaits us on the horizon like the rising sun is palpable, capable of being sensed before the first rays are seen.
In letting go lies magic, be magical.

I will leave you with the following words

“When light rises, fear springs up to dim the light. We are presented with the choice to give in to the fear or to rise above it. We always have a choice.” -Danielle Lindner

CHOOSE TO BE MAGICAL

Love Always
Neelam Kataria

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