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“Becoming”

Former first lady Michelle Obama just published her book “Becoming” and I happen to watch one of the quick teasers about her conversation with my idol Oprah. Oprah asked the former first lady why she chose the word “Becoming”  as the title of her book. Her answer or should I say her words resonated with me so much that I had to write them down. We should strive to constantly evolve, constantly grow, constantly be better than what we were yesterday, and in that way we are constantly “becoming” a better versions of ourselves.

My last post was about being thankful and being in the present and enjoy the feeling of happiness and contentment that courses through your body. Today I invite you to experience a different outlook. Looking into our past and events gone by may not be a very welcome, however I feel reflecting on our past, our journey, obstacles we faced, and acknowledging where we are today provides an immense amount of  strength that brings on a very superhero kind of a feeling.

Celebrate your achievements, celebrate your journey

Celebrate your life

I was at PSO competition in Philadelphia supporting our students as well as my dear friends. Once the competition was over for my friends we were in a celebratory mode at night and wine is our go to celebration drink. We got to discussing our near past and then of course our past like way past past. My friend had no idea how far I had come in my journey and honestly that was the first time I had voiced my journey to her and to myself. I could see pride in her eyes for me and that made me feel so special. Even as I write this I feel  a bit embarrassed, as if I am bragging, but I do believe we all have the right to feel pride. Pride in our achievements, overcoming obstacles, fears, judgments, and challenges is important. Many of you have overcome obstacles, challenges and only known to you fears in our classes, for that I am proud of you and so should you. If it was not a very guards down candid conversation with my friend I would not have had this revelation, I absolutely had to share it with each of you.

“Remember how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” ~Rick Warren

 I urge you to take a walk by yourself, acknowledge your past and see your present. Be mindful of where you have been and how far you have come. When we truly spend time with ourselves and speak to our deeper selves, a self that knows the hurt, the challenges all too well and has seen defeat, that self also needs to see accomplishments, recognize and thrive in all the achievements. Do not deny the feeling of pride in yourself to yourself. Appreciate your journey, revel in your strength, in your bravery, know how wonderfully special you are. Celebrate your progress, let your superpowers shine, it is wonderful to be “present” but for an equal measure, honor yourself and your past and how far you have come. You are amazing!!

Moral of the story, you do not need wine to celebrate your accomplishments :).
Be A Goddess

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~ Oprah Winfery

Love and Light Always
Neelam Kataria

Be Brave. Brave enough to be Uncomfortable

The TEDWomen lecture by Luvvie Ajayi hit home with some truths about people and women in particular. One of the most difficult things to do is to create uncomfortable situations. You know that queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach. Everyone standing around, not willing to make eye contact. No one knows exactly how to respond to the uncomfortable comment without making people even more awkward. So, what do we do now? Nothing, right? Everyone acts as if nothing happened and we go on about our business.

Be Brave enough to be uncomfortable

Be Brave

How many of us are brave enough to create these situations? For example discussing pole dance or sensual movement in a group or for that matter with your friends. Right, not many. Let’s take a look at why we as women don’t want to speak up and speak out. How many times as a child are we told don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say? Or it’s impolite to interrupt others? Women are taught it’s our role to make people feel comfortable and welcomed. We want people to like us. Our whole lives we’re conditioned to not to create unpleasant situations.

Breaking that mold can be difficult, but it’s not impossible. Some people have confidence built in or they’ve been brought up in environments which promote expression. For those of us who don’t, we can start small. Find your voice in something you’re highly passionate about. You can begin in a less intimidating environment such as a blog or vlog, no direct human contact. Sometimes it’s even bigger baby steps like telling our kids, NO! Lol.

At our studio it is our endeavour to provide a safe place to try and begin our journey. Talking in an environment where people are more accepting will ease the pressure of learning to have uncomfortable conversations. Building our confidence to be comfortable in our own skin helps to fortify that little girl inside who’s afraid to speak her mind. Take a deep breath, be brave, and speak your truth.

 

Link to Luvvie Ajayi’s lecture

https://www.ted.com/talks/luvvie_ajayi_get_comfortable_with_being_uncomfortable