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Loving yourself is harder than it seems

 

 

Love Yourself

What does self love mean? Does it sound indulgent and almost selfish to you? Back in the day “you complete me” from a Tom Cruise movie trended for a long time. It made women teary eyed and all gooey inside. To which I say…

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha 

Loving yourself is indeed harder than it sounds. It requires a good understanding of self, which requires one to spend time with themselves. It requires taking time to have hard conversations with yourself. In this day and age of social media where lives are lived outside of self it becomes even more important to connect with one self and within oneself. Are there desires of wanting and needing love/self validations, or seeking your worth in someone else’s eyes. Be mindful of your needs that arise from deep within, acknowledge those deep desired needs and then understand WHY? Why do we crave those affectionate and reassuring words from someone else? As I write these words they translate harsh, they are equally difficult when we face them but ultimately we find the courage to be true to ourselves.

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” ~Russ Von Hoelscher

This year lets work on ourselves, what we want from ourselves, get to know our own strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with our strengths and work on our weaknesses, but at each moment it has to be your own design and not a design created through someone else’s vision of you. This year let’s fall in love with ourselves.
To love ourselves is to never say “you complete me” it is to say I am, and the potential of that is limitless.

All that I seek is already in me. “ ~Louise Hay

Love Always

Neelam

Becoming

“Becoming”

Former first lady Michelle Obama just published her book “Becoming” and I happen to watch one of the quick teasers about her conversation with my idol Oprah. Oprah asked the former first lady why she chose the word “Becoming”  as the title of her book. Her answer or should I say her words resonated with me so much that I had to write them down. We should strive to constantly evolve, constantly grow, constantly be better than what we were yesterday, and in that way we are constantly “becoming” a better versions of ourselves.

My last post was about being thankful and being in the present and enjoy the feeling of happiness and contentment that courses through your body. Today I invite you to experience a different outlook. Looking into our past and events gone by may not be a very welcome, however I feel reflecting on our past, our journey, obstacles we faced, and acknowledging where we are today provides an immense amount of  strength that brings on a very superhero kind of a feeling.

Celebrate your achievements, celebrate your journey

Celebrate your life

I was at PSO competition in Philadelphia supporting our students as well as my dear friends. Once the competition was over for my friends we were in a celebratory mode at night and wine is our go to celebration drink. We got to discussing our near past and then of course our past like way past past. My friend had no idea how far I had come in my journey and honestly that was the first time I had voiced my journey to her and to myself. I could see pride in her eyes for me and that made me feel so special. Even as I write this I feel  a bit embarrassed, as if I am bragging, but I do believe we all have the right to feel pride. Pride in our achievements, overcoming obstacles, fears, judgments, and challenges is important. Many of you have overcome obstacles, challenges and only known to you fears in our classes, for that I am proud of you and so should you. If it was not a very guards down candid conversation with my friend I would not have had this revelation, I absolutely had to share it with each of you.

“Remember how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” ~Rick Warren

 I urge you to take a walk by yourself, acknowledge your past and see your present. Be mindful of where you have been and how far you have come. When we truly spend time with ourselves and speak to our deeper selves, a self that knows the hurt, the challenges all too well and has seen defeat, that self also needs to see accomplishments, recognize and thrive in all the achievements. Do not deny the feeling of pride in yourself to yourself. Appreciate your journey, revel in your strength, in your bravery, know how wonderfully special you are. Celebrate your progress, let your superpowers shine, it is wonderful to be “present” but for an equal measure, honor yourself and your past and how far you have come. You are amazing!!

Moral of the story, you do not need wine to celebrate your accomplishments :).
Be A Goddess

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~ Oprah Winfery

Love and Light Always
Neelam Kataria

Art of Letting go

ART OF LETTING GO
Everything that has a beginning has an end. The green of summer is quickly turning to brilliant hues of yellow, orange and brown.Letting go enables us to grow and shedding  makes growth possible.  Learning how and when to let go is essential. The continuum of this cycle is  apparent in fall. Whether it is a tree’s choice to shed it’s leaves or not,  it is this release in fall that allows the continuation of trees life as the strength of the sun fades away.

This seemingly simple act of letting go is monumental in shaping us. Revisit your first visit to the studio, what did you let go of when you decided to take your first pole class, and since then what else have you let go, think about your growth in that time. We  continually need to drop or shed aspects of our being, our beliefs that we hold about about ourselves, continually evaluate expectations we maintain form other people, relationships, job, and from ourselves.

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Letting go Pole dancing helps shedding insecurity

Pole dance helps regain confidence

Letting go of long held beliefs makes room for new beginnings

Shedding of previously held beliefs, expectations, perceptions ensures growth. Letting go is not easy,  it is a step into the dark unknown space, just like the leaf letting go of the branches floating beautifully down to the ground. When we decide to let go it is natural to experience a surge of fear because what is known and comfortable is being left behind In that that moment  I want you to remember
“There is no growth without change, no change without fear or loss and no loss without pain” Rick Warren

The sense of fear and despair needs to be fought with faith and belief in yourself. Be aware of the magic unfolding  in front of you, from the trees letting go of their leaves with grace, leaves letting go of branches and nourishing the ground, to the monarch butterflies flying to Mexico leaving behind their chrysalis hanging on fences. What awaits us on the horizon like the rising sun is palpable, capable of being sensed before the first rays are seen.
In letting go lies magic, be magical.

I will leave you with the following words

“When light rises, fear springs up to dim the light. We are presented with the choice to give in to the fear or to rise above it. We always have a choice.” -Danielle Lindner

CHOOSE TO BE MAGICAL

Love Always
Neelam Kataria

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