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Practicing Self Love; A series to focus on practice (part 2)

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone  you love” Brene Brown

If you are reading this blog, this is the second of the series as we focus on the practice of self love and how it is an ongoing practice. Read Part 1 of the Blog here

Stop Comparing yourself!!

Practice self love by stopping comparisons. I have written another blog that is dedicated to  happiness and how comparison kills it.  comparison is one of those things that happens without awareness and contributes to unhappiness all the time. Especially for women, from print media to social media comparison is thrust into our faces and senses all the time. It is that much harder and important to realize when comparison sets in. You are a goddess in your own right, being you is your superpower, believe it with every particle of your being. Spend your energy to nourish your mind body and soul and build your own path.

Surround yourself with people you feel good with!!

This is critical, it has been my pleasure to provide a space where you leave all your worries outside the red doors of the studio and walk into a space that is filled with love and feel good vibe.  Outside of the studio do a mental check of people who are around you, do they inspire you? Be mindful of who you spend your time and energy with because your energy is precious to you. Do not give it away. 

Be compassionate when sh*t hits the fan!

So many of us (myself included) tend to beat ourselves down when we need our love the most. When we fail or screw up or someone rejects us, that’s the time we often beat ourselves down so much so that if you were to say it out loud to yourself you would not like that tone, does beating someone who’s lying down, sounds fair? I don’t think so, why would you do it your wonderful beautiful self?

 Choose to be most loving and forgiving with yourself when things don’t go as planned. When you stumble and fall. When you say the wrong things. When you feel dejected about a spin, or a trick? Remember the first day your very first Intro class 💜. Ask yourself what you need and then spray that all over yourself and for extra unicorn magic wear some glitter and allow yourself to sparkle.

Practice this for two weeks and wait for the rest 😊 

Love and Light Always
Neelam Kataria

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Self Love: Be Good To Yourself

Practicing Self Love; A series to focus on practice (part 1)

Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown

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Be good to yourself

Be Good To Yourself, loving yourself is so much harder  than what the words imply. I have been struggling with it myself. Fairly recently when Ms. Crystal Belcher was at the studio teaching workshops, a friend and I were catching up after the workshops, she is coming back after major surgery and I am battling various obstacles life throws from time to time. While we were chattin with each other I believe we were having an internal dialogue with ourselves too and were realizing how hard we were being on ourselves. That interaction made me realize that self love is not one and done, it is a process that needs consistency. At the studio we value self confidence, Self-confidence is about trusting yourself and your abilities for example of hanging upside down, or baking perfection. Self-esteem, on the other hand, is about how we see ourselves. It’s about our perception of our worth. No matter what happens on the outside, do you treat yourself with love, care, and respect or not?

This realization that been coming in small doses over the years, when I left a kickass corporate job to be a mom and wife, taking on a new country new culture and a language that I was fluent in yet it was foreign. As a high achiever it is very easy to mask the issue of self esteem. Learning the art of self love is a work in progress and I believe it will always be.

Lets practice self love ❤️ 💖 💗 

Be someone who loves.

This is hard, no question about it. It will take practice just like when we learn how to invert, from pole inversions to silk inversion, it is the consistency of practice, understanding how your muscles work. Similarly the practice of self love will take consistent practice. Try to be someone who loves, allow  love to flow through yourself as often as possible, If you take aerial Yoga class with me and have practiced the flow of love ; )  you know how to practice it, for others where have you been (hahaha) all jokes aside, really practice the flow of love think of anything or anyone that made you feel love and place it in your heart, be open to all the feelings it invokes in you. Be in that moment, you do not need to be in a hammock to practice this, you could be waiting at a red light to turn green or waiting for you coffee to brew, and then slowly grow this practice, find things you love in people or nature, take thew time to observe and acknowledge them, be open to love.

Take it further by feeling what it feels like to be loved

Life is very smooth when things go as planned and we are succeeding, it is when stuff falls apart, or when we feel rejected that we need to find the place of love. It is during these challenging moments that we are meanest to ourselves. Think of things a person who loves you would say when you are facing those challenges or struggling. Pretty sure there would be no criticism or judgement. There would be kindness, understanding, and acceptance and that is what you would need to practice towards yourself.
 

I am practicing self love by sharing this small note I received from a student which made me feel so loved and appreciated. 

“Thank you so much for bringing heels class to the studio, I can not tell you how much positive impact  the studio has had on my life and how much I love dancing here.” ~ Arielle
For the next two weeks inculcate the above two practices in your daily routine. Our next blog will take your practice further,When self doubt clouds me or when I am having a tough day, your words give me a quick dose of “what it feels like to be loved”, Thank you 


Love & Light Always

Neelam Kataria

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Loving yourself is harder than it seems

 

 

Love Yourself

What does self love mean? Does it sound indulgent and almost selfish to you? Back in the day “you complete me” from a Tom Cruise movie trended for a long time. It made women teary eyed and all gooey inside. To which I say…

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha 

Loving yourself is indeed harder than it sounds. It requires a good understanding of self, which requires one to spend time with themselves. It requires taking time to have hard conversations with yourself. In this day and age of social media where lives are lived outside of self it becomes even more important to connect with one self and within oneself. Are there desires of wanting and needing love/self validations, or seeking your worth in someone else’s eyes. Be mindful of your needs that arise from deep within, acknowledge those deep desired needs and then understand WHY? Why do we crave those affectionate and reassuring words from someone else? As I write these words they translate harsh, they are equally difficult when we face them but ultimately we find the courage to be true to ourselves.

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” ~Russ Von Hoelscher

This year lets work on ourselves, what we want from ourselves, get to know our own strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with our strengths and work on our weaknesses, but at each moment it has to be your own design and not a design created through someone else’s vision of you. This year let’s fall in love with ourselves.
To love ourselves is to never say “you complete me” it is to say I am, and the potential of that is limitless.

All that I seek is already in me. “ ~Louise Hay

Love Always

Neelam

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