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“Becoming”

Former first lady Michelle Obama just published her book “Becoming” and I happen to watch one of the quick teasers about her conversation with my idol Oprah. Oprah asked the former first lady why she chose the word “Becoming”  as the title of her book. Her answer or should I say her words resonated with me so much that I had to write them down. We should strive to constantly evolve, constantly grow, constantly be better than what we were yesterday, and in that way we are constantly “becoming” a better versions of ourselves.

My last post was about being thankful and being in the present and enjoy the feeling of happiness and contentment that courses through your body. Today I invite you to experience a different outlook. Looking into our past and events gone by may not be a very welcome, however I feel reflecting on our past, our journey, obstacles we faced, and acknowledging where we are today provides an immense amount of  strength that brings on a very superhero kind of a feeling.

Celebrate your achievements, celebrate your journey

Celebrate your life

I was at PSO competition in Philadelphia supporting our students as well as my dear friends. Once the competition was over for my friends we were in a celebratory mode at night and wine is our go to celebration drink. We got to discussing our near past and then of course our past like way past past. My friend had no idea how far I had come in my journey and honestly that was the first time I had voiced my journey to her and to myself. I could see pride in her eyes for me and that made me feel so special. Even as I write this I feel  a bit embarrassed, as if I am bragging, but I do believe we all have the right to feel pride. Pride in our achievements, overcoming obstacles, fears, judgments, and challenges is important. Many of you have overcome obstacles, challenges and only known to you fears in our classes, for that I am proud of you and so should you. If it was not a very guards down candid conversation with my friend I would not have had this revelation, I absolutely had to share it with each of you.

“Remember how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” ~Rick Warren

 I urge you to take a walk by yourself, acknowledge your past and see your present. Be mindful of where you have been and how far you have come. When we truly spend time with ourselves and speak to our deeper selves, a self that knows the hurt, the challenges all too well and has seen defeat, that self also needs to see accomplishments, recognize and thrive in all the achievements. Do not deny the feeling of pride in yourself to yourself. Appreciate your journey, revel in your strength, in your bravery, know how wonderfully special you are. Celebrate your progress, let your superpowers shine, it is wonderful to be “present” but for an equal measure, honor yourself and your past and how far you have come. You are amazing!!

Moral of the story, you do not need wine to celebrate your accomplishments :).
Be A Goddess

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~ Oprah Winfery

Love and Light Always
Neelam Kataria

It takes courage to be vulnerable

You Don’t Have to Hide

 

Women are special creations. Many of us are gifted with a strength and resolve most men will never comprehend. We’re caregivers and nurturers. We bind our families together. So many people depend on us every day and we don’t want to disappoint.

We pretend to be super women, holding down jobs, family, household duties, and friends. Of course, we can do it all. Or at least we’ll never let you to see that we can’t. Everyone dips from our well. Rarely, do we take the opportunity to refresh and become whole again. Then, comes those rare occasions where the well runs dry.

Even then, we’re too ashamed to admit we need help. We don’t want to show any signs of weakness. We hide behind our superhero capes and our fake smiles, while inside we’re slowly suffocating. We try to break through the surface, all we need is to catch our breath. Yet, we’re too afraid to ask someone to throw out a lifeline.

It takes courage to be vulnerable. Asking for help can be scary. We’ve been conditioned to think it means we’re less of a woman if we do. If we can’t do it all, then we might be flawed. Truth is no one can do it all. We all need a little help sometimes. Don’t allow fear of failure to prevent you from reaching out when life becomes too much. We’ve all been there, many suffering through our struggles alone.

Know that you have support around you, even if it’s just a person to lend an ear to the situation. Reach out to family, friends, church family, or even the sisterhood in the studio. We’re here to hold each other up and be the strength you need when yours run out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There is no shame in being vulnerable.

Feel safe in your circle of studio sisterhood

It takes courage to be vulnerable