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Loving yourself is harder than it seems

 

 

Love Yourself

What does self love mean? Does it sound indulgent and almost selfish to you? Back in the day “you complete me” from a Tom Cruise movie trended for a long time. It made women teary eyed and all gooey inside. To which I say…

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha 

Loving yourself is indeed harder than it sounds. It requires a good understanding of self, which requires one to spend time with themselves. It requires taking time to have hard conversations with yourself. In this day and age of social media where lives are lived outside of self it becomes even more important to connect with one self and within oneself. Are there desires of wanting and needing love/self validations, or seeking your worth in someone else’s eyes. Be mindful of your needs that arise from deep within, acknowledge those deep desired needs and then understand WHY? Why do we crave those affectionate and reassuring words from someone else? As I write these words they translate harsh, they are equally difficult when we face them but ultimately we find the courage to be true to ourselves.

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” ~Russ Von Hoelscher

This year lets work on ourselves, what we want from ourselves, get to know our own strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with our strengths and work on our weaknesses, but at each moment it has to be your own design and not a design created through someone else’s vision of you. This year let’s fall in love with ourselves.
To love ourselves is to never say “you complete me” it is to say I am, and the potential of that is limitless.

All that I seek is already in me. “ ~Louise Hay

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It takes courage to be vulnerable

You Don’t Have to Hide

 

Women are special creations. Many of us are gifted with a strength and resolve most men will never comprehend. We’re caregivers and nurturers. We bind our families together. So many people depend on us every day and we don’t want to disappoint.

We pretend to be super women, holding down jobs, family, household duties, and friends. Of course, we can do it all. Or at least we’ll never let you to see that we can’t. Everyone dips from our well. Rarely, do we take the opportunity to refresh and become whole again. Then, comes those rare occasions where the well runs dry.

Even then, we’re too ashamed to admit we need help. We don’t want to show any signs of weakness. We hide behind our superhero capes and our fake smiles, while inside we’re slowly suffocating. We try to break through the surface, all we need is to catch our breath. Yet, we’re too afraid to ask someone to throw out a lifeline.

It takes courage to be vulnerable. Asking for help can be scary. We’ve been conditioned to think it means we’re less of a woman if we do. If we can’t do it all, then we might be flawed. Truth is no one can do it all. We all need a little help sometimes. Don’t allow fear of failure to prevent you from reaching out when life becomes too much. We’ve all been there, many suffering through our struggles alone.

Know that you have support around you, even if it’s just a person to lend an ear to the situation. Reach out to family, friends, church family, or even the sisterhood in the studio. We’re here to hold each other up and be the strength you need when yours run out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There is no shame in being vulnerable.

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It takes courage to be vulnerable

Strong like a man but love like a woman

Be Strong like a Man but Love like a Woman

 

Logic, rationale, and critical thinking allows for the ability to fortify oneself with strength and power. Many men weld these talents like weapons. When used well, they can result in many wins. These skills are valued in the business and academic worlds. Thinkers are praised for their intellectual achievements. These are definitely useful abilities, but are they enough?

Women in business brought another layer of necessary skills. We not only think with logic and reason, but we make emotion-based decisions. This probably threw men for a loop when we entered the workforce. WHY are you crying because the machine won’t work???? This is the stereotypical thought process about women and emotions. Does this happen sometimes? Yes. But incorporating EQ or Emotional Intelligence into the business world has provided a new way to interact with people on a whole new level.

Women are not only thinkers but we’re born nurturers. Most of us have the ability and need to connect with people on a deeper level. This natural instinct to reach out and heal, not only the physical but the emotional aspects of a person, gives us the means to fix problems more holistically. Logic, reason and critical thinking are good for resolving processes and the mechanical issues. When we need to repair a people-based problem, we need more. We need to problem solve on more than just the surface level because people are not machines and their problems stem from more than a process breakdown. Being able to understand how the issue has started or impacted people mentally will give you the ability to change not only the process but the mindset and culture.

Emotional decisions are our strength

Strong Like a man love like a woman

Don’t neglect this gift we have been given as women. Don’t try to hide your ability to understand someone on a more emotional level. Our nurturing side is not a weakness. It’s the core of our feminine strength. Allow your talents to shine. If you look at many of the powerful women throughout history, you’ll see they leverage this gift to propel them through their success.